I am lucky to have a friend from TWU staying with me this week. She is finishing up an internship at the Children's Defense Fund and needed a place to stay for the last week. I am happy to be able to share my space with her and she is great company! It makes the looking, waiting and frustration a little gentler when someone is around.
The other day someone told me "I thought you were indifferent" in regards to wanting to spend time with people. Indifferent? I don't think I could be further from indifferent. People [and friends!] are in a large part the joy of existence, why would I be indifferent? I didn't know how to respond. I mean, "Of course I'm not indifferent!" couldn't possibly communicate how deeply I am interested.
There might be something to the "I thought you were indifferent" comment that I should try to understand. I am confident that most people are afraid of being rejected, of being alone, of not being accepted when people see them as they really are. I know I have those fears but, what have I done to communicate that I am indifferent? Is it that shell of self-protection against being hurt that sends off the "I don't care" message? Possibly.
The other day someone told me "I thought you were indifferent" in regards to wanting to spend time with people. Indifferent? I don't think I could be further from indifferent. People [and friends!] are in a large part the joy of existence, why would I be indifferent? I didn't know how to respond. I mean, "Of course I'm not indifferent!" couldn't possibly communicate how deeply I am interested.
There might be something to the "I thought you were indifferent" comment that I should try to understand. I am confident that most people are afraid of being rejected, of being alone, of not being accepted when people see them as they really are. I know I have those fears but, what have I done to communicate that I am indifferent? Is it that shell of self-protection against being hurt that sends off the "I don't care" message? Possibly.
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